Click Control

 Hi All , 

Today as I am giving my phone in the store to change the panel as I broke it I had to transfer everything in my phone before going to submit . That’s when I saw nearly a 10 year story / chapters of my life . It was an amazing experience to go through all the photos but I also thought there are a lot . I had nearly 20000 pictures and 4000 videos . But every photo had a story . Has been a wonderful journey . It was a really long time to get this photos transferred. Took a lot of my patience and time . 

So now I have decided to stop taking a lot a photos and instead take less . And another thing is I am still wondering how to print all these or make an album . 

How do you all deal with this ? Do you take a lot of photos ? Or what are your thoughts on saving or printing these . Do post in some ideas for me . 

Navarathri special drawing

 

Onam

I am writing here with a lot of happiness. 

Onam …a time when childhood was at its best . My memories of Onam goes like this . Everyday we used to see on the roads for cow dungs . It has to be fresh cow dung :) immediately I would collect it and keep it in our backyard . We had a big black thindu to put kolam in front of our house . Those days we do not buy flowers from market . We had it in our backyard / kollai itself . We had red chembarathi, mandharam, nandhiyarvattai , Mathan poo ( to keep in the middle ) .The highlight is paaasharu / algae for green colour . We used to slowly scratch it from the wall or from the sides of a well . 

We keep a little ball of cow dung in the middle and make a round shape . Then we keep the biggest flower in the middle and then with the other flower petals make a round design . Sometimes I have even plucked some chembarathi from my neighbour house . She is still my friend so even if she reads this not a problem :) . By morning 7 or 8 am it’s a nice view to have a walk on the road . Nice small houses in parallel lines with pookalam in everybody’s house entrance . A breezy wind and sometimes temple bell or song in the background . 

We used to frequently come outside the house and see if any cow or goat is eating the pookalam :) 

On the day of Onam new dress and a bigger pookalam with Sadhya . Simple and humble Onam 

Currently things are different . It’s not the same as I saw in my childhood . Now it’s like photo shoots , too much of shopping etc etc goes on . The beauty of Kerala is fading .It’s in the trap of freaks , social media culture and many other things . Let me stick to the topic now . 

So , this year for Onam we bought some flowers from shop and I make small pookalam here though I feel to make bigger ones . We are yet to buy a new dress that’s all . 

Now , after separating the flowers I collected the seeds and kept it in a box . I told my daughter we used to collect the seeds like this and throw in the backyard and new plants will grow . I told her we shall try it here also in a pot and she herself added the seeds to a pot and below is the picture of the collected seeds and the new plants ;)

 Collected seeds 

The sprouted yellow and orange marigold 

We were extremely happy looking at the pot with so many sprouts. Naveen too was exited to look at this in the morning . So even here I could do this . I felt very happy . 

Let me know how you celebrated Onam in your childhood or how you see it these days . 

My Onam pookalam photos will be uploaded soon in the next blog . 

Take care :) 

My Tiny Garden

This is my small garden in my house . The pirandai chedi has touched the ceiling. I am yet to learn or explore some pirandai recipes. Marudhani/ mehandi has become a small tree . Kanakambaram has so many seeds which has to be moved to another pot . Jasmine’s are blooming . My rubber plant has grown very shiny . The money plant is flowing like anything . This money plant is my lucky plant I would say . The chembarathi/ hibiscus is doing well . Likewise the table rose , indoor plants etc … isn’t this a happy picture . 

I am posting some pictures here for you to see .

Home

 How many of you think big houses doesn’t have a life in it . I strongly believe in this . I have been in big houses as well as small houses . 

After my wedding I moved to my husband house which is only 700 sq feet . But that house has real life . Our house is very small infact the smallest in the family . But most of the people come to our house only . To be honest we don’t even have space to accommodate a couple if they come home but still we give them the  main room and we sleep in the hall . We have a small little balcony with nearly 35 plants . A small Pooja room and a kitchen . This house was bought by my father in law nearly 30 years ago . 

Another example is Dhanalakshmi stores at trichy . This was my grandpa then uncle ( Peripa )  house where we used to go for vacation. I think he was paying 600 rupees rent per month . It has one room and a kitchen that’s all . Toilets were public but neat . We sleep in the terrace looking at the sky . Let me tell you that simple happiness still sticks to my mind . Today their kids live in the USA and they have got many houses and cars and they shift to a bigger house . I feel the love is missing when I go to that house . I always loved that tiny store house . Today there is a car , ac to sleep and lot of space but I loved the old house . 

In my family most of them have big houses but I don’t see anybody visiting their home or even eating a lunch or dinner together .  People live inside the same house but in their own rooms . They have attached bathroom , tv , and washing machine inside the room itself . So basically they come eat and then go into the rooms . I think my house doesn’t have space but we welcome and be happy with people . The door is always open for people with love and food . 

Today as me and Naveen are getting old we have decided ONE thing . We are ok to have a big garden or a backyard but the house has to be small . It’s not that we cannot built the biggest house . We can , but we won’t . I want my child to live happy where she gets to see , spend time with whoever comes to our house . Having a small / medium size house encourages to have a discussion in the hall , eat together , use the same gas , television and washing machine . I will never give a separate room to my daughter . She has to live within the house . Even if people think it’s old school that’s fine . These days I see a lot who are just in their room and their own thoughts . They don’t even smile . This is so sick ! 

What are your thoughts on this . Do you think tiny house makes sense ? 

These girls

 Hi ! 

How many of you believe that every family and their rituals are different . I have been married since last 11 years . When I got married I never knew to wear a saree , to cook or any such things , but I knew I must learn all these because I was brought up that way . If there is anything new I always learn . When I get it done and people say wow you did a good job I feel great . That feeling is priceless . Now , I am not doing for the appreciation alone . I like to learn and do things and the end results will always be great . Not only with regards to a married life . I was always like that in my younger days . I am still a student and i get fascinated and exited about most of the things around me . 

Many at times it has been a great plus because my friends call me when they get upset . This mindset has helped in most of the difficult times in life . People say that I have so much of will power , creativity , looking forward to life and so many but I am also an extremely short tempered person and I am working on it. But I have never done harm to anyone with my temper . I normally get out of the house . 

Now , I think girls these days are so lazy . Especially when they get married they are not ready to learn what the other side families has in basket . This is not in my family alone . I see this in 95 percent of girls . They just want to work make money and be idle at home . I think these type of girls should never get married . I wonder the future of their kids . I don’t know why these girls are not ready to anything . How can someone not be ready to learn a new thing or do in their own way in a simple way .People think going for work and making money is great thing than the house . If the house is gone everything is gone . The mother has to know to keep the family well .So everything starts from the mothers . 

So let me know have you seen girls like this ? Are there any in your family or surroundings ? What are your thoughts about these girls . 

I know I am a girl but I don’t like these type of behaviours . I strongly believe that we have to understand and learn families and stay happy too . 

Vishu 2022

Hi !!

Happy Vishu / Tamil puthandu vaazhthukkal to all ;) 

Vishu has always been a sweet memory in my mind . Those days my mother used to keep a simple small vishu Kani with the vegetables and fruits taken from our backyard . We get tomatoes , bananas , ashgourd , pumpkin , coconut and cucumber from our backyard . Sometimes we get snake gourd if we are lucky .Konna Poo ( yellow flower ) need not say we just pluck it from the trees . My mother used to arrange the Kani and close my eyes and show the Kani in the morning nearly by 3 am to 4 am time . After that dad gives 101 rupees as kaineetam. At that time it was a big thing . Then we all take bath wear new clothes and go to the Krishna temple to see Kani there . Then a small vishu Sadhya at home . Neighbors call us and give kaineetam . A day collection would be 300 to 400 rupees . We save it and buy some Coloring or school items . These are the memories I have . 

Today I arranged a vishu Kani at my home with some art work of Tungli . Here are the pictures of the Kani . Tungli enjoyed seeing the Kani . I played the role of my mother today . Whatever we say about parenting or see all the modern videos on parenting , we all end doing the same parenting as our parents did . Atleast some . That’s the reality . 

Let me know how you liked it and how was your vishu in childhood or now . 

Bye ! 

Morning 4 am 

Can see Tungli art work in the wall :) 

Day light vishu Kani