Few things that I tell to my 20 year old self .
To start with I don't have any regrets but that bad feelings I have .I do believe that I have done the best a girl can do in her 20's .
Firstly , I was a heartbroken 20 year old living in a mansion with few clothes and no money. I had to work 7 days a week in graveyard shift .I never have my breakfast so that I can sleep.Most of my friends were boys because they don't gossip and they are easy going .
Here are few things I want to tell my 20 year old self
0.Dont marry in 20's :
Never think about marriage in your 20's.Marrying a man younger to you is never wrong .There are no such rules in my world.
1.Finding a soul friend is important :
I should have not had many friends . Should have realised who is worthy . There was a guy with whom I was a friend for 7 years and one day the friendship broke .The reasons are stories.
2. Breakups are fine .
Every time you have a breakup or a crush failure remember you will find someone great in your life .
3 .Save money :
Should have saved money .
4.Control anger :
I should have controlled my anger so that I had many people with me today . Words thrown can never be taken back . If they forgive me I would be the happiest.
5.Know your teammates :
Should have realised my team mate is ditching me so that I would have been in the UK today but that's still fine . I am happy where I am .
6.Eat healthy :
I should have not skipped breakfast for 7 years and lived with noodles and fruits . I ended up having health issues .
7.Lend money to the right one :
I should have not lend money to whomever asks because I still dint get it back .They cheated me .I could have done something else with that .
8.Knowledge is everything :
Should have continued my studies but that's ok I took care of my family .If I ever get a chance to go to college I will run .
9.Spend time with books:
Should have read some books instead of spending time outside without sleeping .
10.Choose clothes wisely:
Should have tried different clothes . I remember having two jeans and few t shirts
11.Get advise from right ones :
Not everybody are eligible to advice .Just because they advise you when you are mentally ill doesnt mean they are experienced .
12. No credit cards:
Do not have a credit card with you if you don't have your own limits .
13.Observe people :
Talk less and listen more. Atleast observe .
14.Expectation kills :
Expectation and validation kills . Think that there is no such person alive to appreciate and encourage .
To start with I don't have any regrets but that bad feelings I have .I do believe that I have done the best a girl can do in her 20's .
Firstly , I was a heartbroken 20 year old living in a mansion with few clothes and no money. I had to work 7 days a week in graveyard shift .I never have my breakfast so that I can sleep.Most of my friends were boys because they don't gossip and they are easy going .
Here are few things I want to tell my 20 year old self
0.Dont marry in 20's :
Never think about marriage in your 20's.Marrying a man younger to you is never wrong .There are no such rules in my world.
1.Finding a soul friend is important :
I should have not had many friends . Should have realised who is worthy . There was a guy with whom I was a friend for 7 years and one day the friendship broke .The reasons are stories.
2. Breakups are fine .
Every time you have a breakup or a crush failure remember you will find someone great in your life .
3 .Save money :
Should have saved money .
4.Control anger :
I should have controlled my anger so that I had many people with me today . Words thrown can never be taken back . If they forgive me I would be the happiest.
5.Know your teammates :
Should have realised my team mate is ditching me so that I would have been in the UK today but that's still fine . I am happy where I am .
6.Eat healthy :
I should have not skipped breakfast for 7 years and lived with noodles and fruits . I ended up having health issues .
7.Lend money to the right one :
I should have not lend money to whomever asks because I still dint get it back .They cheated me .I could have done something else with that .
8.Knowledge is everything :
Should have continued my studies but that's ok I took care of my family .If I ever get a chance to go to college I will run .
9.Spend time with books:
Should have read some books instead of spending time outside without sleeping .
10.Choose clothes wisely:
Should have tried different clothes . I remember having two jeans and few t shirts
11.Get advise from right ones :
Not everybody are eligible to advice .Just because they advise you when you are mentally ill doesnt mean they are experienced .
12. No credit cards:
Do not have a credit card with you if you don't have your own limits .
13.Observe people :
Talk less and listen more. Atleast observe .
14.Expectation kills :
Expectation and validation kills . Think that there is no such person alive to appreciate and encourage .
Why these nuggets of wisdom only to 20s? Most of them are applicable to any age.
ReplyDeleteTrue but I am only 30 so Can write only about 20s.Probably as I grow old can make a better note.yet to know how my 30 and 40 ees will go :)
DeleteMy 20s sucked. I'm so glad I'm not young anymore. (It's a song, but so, so true.)
ReplyDeleteI wish my 30ees doesn't suck .lol :)
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