Only Texting ..Why so ??

What is a person conveying to you if they “never” have time to talk, but have time to text? I’m busy writing my novel and dealing with life outside of writing. But, if I want to talk to x, y, or z, I will find time to make a phone call. If I don’t get an answer, I may leave a VM or call back another time. After I call the second time and I don’t get an answer, I’m not calling back lol !!!

Text messaging is often a way to communicate with someone while avoiding making a commitment to really get to know him or her. The person maybe curious or may have a liking to you, but that interest is on the low calorie end or possibly still developing. I believe people who are shy or nervous talking to you will go with the text option first instead of calling. But, if we are adults, and matures ones at that, we would go about matters via verbal communication.

I think some people avoid talking on the phone because they may end up really "liking you"

It’s hard to get to know someone via text because you can’t hear the tone of their voice, the choice and depth of their words or the emotions that go into them. Text messaging is an easy way to hide who you are but it’s also an easy way to leave room for misinterpretation. How many arguments or relationships have ended due to text messaging? Having arguments through text messaging or emails is juvenile. You’re sitting on one end of the phone sweating with an angry face cursing the person out in your mind while typing that angry text message or email.

I bet they are many people who have exchanged numbers with someone out of interest, but can count the times you actually talked to that person on the phone. If you’re not interested, say so via text since that’s the way you been communicating with that person anyway.

Yes, there is a possibility that the person has a lot going in their personal lives. If that’s the case, give them space. If that person is interested in you, they will pick up the phone to talk—even if it’s for 30 quality minutes.

I am Too young to be this empty ,,

Your mother or father has died. Whether you had a good, bad or indifferent relationship with the parent who died, your feelings for him or her were probably quite strong. At bottom, most of us love our parents deeply. And they love us with the most unconditional love that imperfect human beings can summons.You are now faced with the difficult, but necessary, need to mourn the loss of this significant person in your life. Mourning is the open expression of your thoughts and feelings about the death. It is an essential part of healing.Your grief is unique.As strange as some of these emotions may seem, they are normal and healthy. Let yourself feel whatever you may be feeling; don't judge yourself or try to repress painful thoughts and feelings. And whenever you can, find someone who will hear you out as you explore your grief.If you have brothers or sisters, the death of this parent will probably affect them differently than it is affecting you. After all, each of them had a unique relationship with the parent who died, so each has the right to mourn the loss in his or her own way.Your feelings of loss and sadness will probably leave you fatigued. Your ability to think clearly and make decisions may be impaired. And your low energy level may naturally slow you down. Respect what your body and mind are telling you.Though your parent is no longer physically with you, he or she lives on in spirit through your memories.
Treasure those memories.

"Death of a parent changes your life forever,
Realize Your Grief is Unique"

Cant explain !

Better late than never:)
Am happy i cud bring at least
Small happiness in your life
I go mad when i look at you
You have made me feel so special
Now we are so closely bonded
Am not afraid of dying
But m afraid of loosing you.
You didnt do anything..
But i am so in love with you
I dont know how....
I dont know why..
All i know is that i love you with every part of my heart
I cant talk to you late nights
Only whisper..
There may be many others in my life
In my past and future
But non can replace you
You will always have a soft cozy corner
In the core of my heart
My love for you is growing
I feel so happy when i see you
Everytime you look at me ,I feel special
I feel there is no one around us
And that s what i love the most
Everytime i see you happy i feel i have achieved everything in this world .....

Letting go...

At work, we often face stressful situations, dreaded projects, irritating co-workers, frustrating bosses, an overwhelming number of tasks and messages, boring work we don’t enjoy.

These problems have one simple cause: we’re holding on.

The work itself isn’t stressful — it’s just action that’s taken or that needs to be taken. It’s our reaction to the work that causes the stress: our holding on to a wish that things were different.

It’s not the constant stream of interruptions that is frustrating — they are just events that happen around us, like a leaf falling or a bird flying by. It’s our holding on, in our minds, to the task we were doing before we were interrupted that causes the frustration. We wish we weren’t interrupted from the task, and we resent anything that interrupts us, and our minds are still half on the previous task.

Our co-workers and boss aren’t the problem either: they’re just other human beings trying to do the best they can in this world. It’s our holding on to the idea that they should somehow behave a certain way, that they should do their best to make us happy, that causes us anger and irritation.

It’s not that we have an overwhelming number of tasks and messages that causes us to be stressed out — it’s our reaction to that number. It’s just a list of things, or a phone ringing, or an inbox with a list of messages. Those things are harmless. But when we hold on to the idea that we can do everything, and that we have to deal with all this at once, we become stressed, because obviously we can’t. We can only do one thing, though our minds are on all of them.

LETTING GO.....

zzzzzz....................

The Audi R8^[4] (Typ 42)^[6] is a mid-engine, 2-seater sports car,^[4][7] which uses Audi's trademark quattro permanent all-wheel drive system.^[4][8] It was introduced by the German automaker Audi AG in 2006.

The car was exclusively designed, developed, and manufactured by Audi AG's high performance private subsidiary company, quattro GmbH, and is based on theLamborghini Gallardo platform.^[9] The fundamental construction of the R8 is based on the Audi Space Frame,^[4] and uses an aluminium monocoque which is built around space frame principles. The car is built by quattro GmbH in a newly renovated factory at Audi's 'aluminium site' at Neckarsulm in Germany.^[4]

In 2005, Audi announced that the name of the successful Audi R8 race car would be used for a new road car in 2007, the Audi R8, based on the Audi Le Mans quattro concept car, appearing at the 2003 International Geneva Motor Show, and 2003 Frankfurt International Motor Show. The R8 road car was officially launched at the Paris Auto Show on 30 September 2006. There was some confusion with the name, which the car shares with the 24 Hours of Le Mans winning R8 Le Mans Prototype (LMP). 6-time 24 Hours of Le Mans winner Jacky Ickx described the R8 as "the best handling road car today".^[10] The Audi R8 is used as a safety car in Deutsche Tourenwagen Masters and British Superbike Championshipracing series.

To produce the R8 at quattro GmbH, seventy workers fit 5,000 unique parts by hand. The factory at Neckarsulm, redeveloped at a cost of €28 million, usually produces between eight and fifteen cars a day, up to a maximum daily output of 29 cars.^[4] Ninety-five lasersinspect the entire car in five seconds to ensure that over 220 measurements are within 0.1 millimetres of the programmed plans.^[11]

The two-seat coupé is currently available in Bahrain, Europe, the United States, Canada, Australia, Japan and South Africa.^[12] The R8 Spyder23, an open-top roadster model, followed in 2009. In Latin America, the R8 became available at the end of 2008 at dealers inMexico City, Bogota, Medellin, São Paulo, Rio de Janeiro, Buenos Aires, Lima, Santiago and Santo Domingo. Customers bought every unit available for 2008 within a week^[13] after the R8 premiered at the Bogota International Auto Show and Auto Expo of Medellin.

In Asia, the R8 is available in Bahrain, Pakistan, India, Japan, Taiwan, South Korea, Philippines, Hong Kong and Vietnam, and has been available in China, Turkey, United Arab Emirates, Singapore, Malaysia and Indonesia since 2008.

Thoughts ...

A Flower that blooms doesn't know the beauty that it beholds...
Undiscovered beauty lasts till the next beautiful thing is discovered.
To be 'Discovered' or Not discovered' is the best ??? 









This Poem is shared with Poets United

FRIENDSHIP..

To All My Dear Friends!

U may be a gal or Bot
U may be bold
U may be black
U may be a vegetarian
U may be fat
U may think ur the king or the queen
U may talk a lot
U may hate pet

U may love music
U may be weird or cool
U may be fit or Hip
U may go by sled or
U might have a car
U may be a cowboy or a cow gal
U Might wear glasses or might not wear
U may be bad or Mad

WHOEVER U'RE

YOU ARE MY BEST FRIEND!!

This will pass

“This life is what you make it. Not matter what, you're going to mess up sometimes, it's a universal truth. But the good part is you get to decide how you're going to mess it up. Girls will be your friends - they'll act like it anyway. But just remember, some come, some go. The ones that stay with you through everything - they're your true best friends. Don't let go of them. Also remember, sisters make the best friends in the world. As for lovers, well, they'll come and go too. And babes, I hate to say it, most of them - actually pretty much all of them are going to break your heart, but you can't give up becuase if you give up, you'll never find your soul mate. You'll never find that half who makes you whole and that goes for everything. Just because you fail once, doesn't mean you're gonna fail at everything. Keep trying, hold on, and always, always, always believe in yourself, because if you don't, then who will sweeties? So keep your head high, keep your chin up, and most importantly, keep smiling, because life's a beautiful thing and there's so much to smile about.”

Content

If you are in a bad place in your life, and are unhappy with everything about it (job, relationship, yourself, house, habits, etc.), it can be a miserable thing. But here’s something interesting: it can also be a happy thing.
I’ve been in situations where you might think things were bad, and sometimes I was very unhappy, and other times I was happy. The difference wasn’t in the external circumstances, but in my mindset — I learned to appreciate what I had, instead of focusing on the things I didn’t have or didn’t like. I was grateful for my health, for the people in my life, for having food and being alive.
If you can learn to develop the right mindset, you can be happy now, without changing anything else. You don’t need to wait until you’ve changed everything and made your life perfect before you’re happy you have everything you need to be happy right now.
The mindset of waiting for happiness is a never-ending cycle. You get a better job  and then immediately start thinking about what your next promotion will be. You get a nicer house and immediately start looking at how nice your neighbors’ houses are, or the faults in the house you have. You try to change your spouse or kids, and if that works (good luck), you’ll find other things about them that need to be changed. It keeps going, until you die.
Instead, learn that you can be content now, without any external changes.

MOM...

The moment a child is born,
The mother is also born.
She never existed before.
The woman existed, but the mother, never.
A mother is something absolutely new..........

Not Missing out -Already Perfect!!!

‘Be Content with what you have; rejoice in the way things are.

When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you.’

Peopleare  not satisfied with their lives, they’re unhappy with their bodies, they want to be better people.

I know, because I was one of those people.

This desire to improve myself and my life was one of the things .I’ve been there, and I can say that it leads to a lot of striving, and a lot of dissatisfaction with who you are and what your life is.

A powerful realization that has helped me is simply this: You’re already good enough, you already have more than enough, and you’re already perfect.

Try saying that to yourself, as corny as that might sound, just to see if it sounds true. Does it resonate as something you already believe (in which case, you can probably stop reading now), or does it not feel right? Do you feel like there are things you still need to improve?

The thing I’ve learned, and it’s not some new truth but an old one that took me much too long to learn, is that if you learn to be content with who you are and where you are in life, it changes everything.

You already have everything you need to be happy, right here and right now.

Do you have eyes that see? ? ? ? ?Seems Funny????

You have the ability to appreciate the beauty of the sky, of greenery, of people’s faces, of water. Do you have ears that hear? You have the ability to appreciate music, the sound of rainfall, the laughter of friends. You have the ability to feel rough denim, cool breezes, grass on bare feet … to smell fresh-cut grass, flowers, coffee … to taste a plum, a chili pepper, chocolate.

This is a miracle, and we take it for granted. Instead, we strive for more, when we already have everything. We want nicer clothes, cooler gadgets, bigger muscles,  flatter stomachs, bigger houses, cars with leather seats that talk to you and massage your butt. We’ve kinda gone insane that way.

The sane thing is to realize we don’t need any of that. We don’t need to improve our lives. We don’t need to improve ourselves, because we’re already perfect.

Once you accept this, it frees you.

You’re now free to do things, not because you want to be better, but because you love it !!!

Because you’re passionate about it, and it gives you joy.

Because it’s a miracle that you even can do it.

You’re already perfect. Being content with yourself means realizing that striving for perfection is based on someone else’s idea of what “perfect” is … and that that’s all bullshit.

Perfect is who you are, not who someone else says you should be.

Also, I love you, completely and unconditionally...........!!!!!!!!!!   and if everyone else in your world betrays  you ,always have me. :)

Pause for 10 seconds .

Give thanks for the people you’ve seen today. Be happy that you are alive .

Now stop reading this blog, and go be happy.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY BLOGGY !!!

I may have forgotten your Birthday by a day, but I haven't forgotten all the lovely times that we've spent together. So cheers to that and I wish you a Belated Happy Birthday!

Who is a boy?

A boy is one of the most beautiful creations of God.

He starts compromising at very tender age.

He sacrifices his chocolates for his sister

Later he sacrifices his love for just a smile on his parents face.

He sacrifices his love for his wife and children by working late nights.

He builds their future by taking loans from banks and then repaying them for the life time.

Thus he sacrifices full youth for his wife and children without any complain.

Believe me he struggles a lot but still has to hear the music (scolding) of Mother, wife and his boss.

Yet every mother, wife and boss tries to have control over him.

Finally his life ends up by compromising for others happiness.

He is that creature of God who no one can compete with.

Respect every boy in your life.

You will never know what he has sacrificed for you.

Just extend your hand when he needs it and you shall receive twice fold love from him.

Boys also have emotions

Love You

I need you

in times of pain,

of fear and stress;

even to smile in my happiness too. I need you

to share my joys,

to share my tears too,

with you.

I need you

to hold on

and be strong,

when things are going wrong.

I need you

to keep the faith and trust

and remind what I'm!

I need you

only for two times

Now & Always ♥

Happies...

1-You are ok
You are as you are, with all your limits, with all your faults, the good and the bad. You have the right to exist and be happy.

2-Your life is no accident
Your life has a meaning: it might be humble, it might be great, it might be rational, or it might be totally weird! No needs to explain it: it just makes sense.

3-You can choose the life you want
You can enjoy what you have and change what you don’t like.

4-Your past is ok
There are things your are proud of, and maybe others you wish you hadn’t done. There are periods in which life has treated you well, and others in which you felt so very unlucky. All is all part of your story, all is part of who you are.

5-Your present is interesting
This crazy thing called life is so damned interesting!

6-Your future is bright
Things will turn out well. If anything bad happens, you will cope with it and you will find a way to learn from experience.

7-You are loved
Loneliness is just a state of mind: if you close your eyes, love is all around you!

Am I a super happy person? Well, I’m getting there, but I am still having challenges in focusing on my present: the future always seems more interesting! I am also in the process of accepting my limits: a tiny part of me still wishes I could be perfect!

Apple.

You must learn that you cannot be loved by all people.
You can be the finest apple in the world – ripe, juicy, sweet, and succulent – and offer yourself to all,
but there will be people who do not like apples.
If you are the world’s finest apple, and someone you love does not like apples, you still have the choice of becoming a banana, but be warned: if you choose to become a banana, you will be a second rate banana.
You must also realize that if you choose to be a second rate banana, there will be people who do not like bananas, so you can spend your life trying to be the best banana – which is impossible if you are an apple
or you can

seek again to be the finest apple.

Love Them...

Now its time for us to stand on our own feet ,to support ourself and think.The more we learn about their childhoods ,the more we should understand their limitations .No one taught them how to be parents.They were living out the limitations of their own parents .The best we can do is to love them as they are and affirm they love us as we are.Dont use parents as an excuse for the negative parts of your life.Always bless your parents with love and all happiness that is meaningfull !!!!

116 Surprise on Jan5'12

I had a phone call today morning from NK at 5 AM and he told me to come downstairs and he is waiting with a surprise..I really felt difficult to get up from the bed as i slept only at 4.00 AM.I went downstairs and found him with a landmark cover .I told him to give it to me but then he told that he cant give it now and both of us together went to a coffee shop .There we opened the cover and there was the surprise -A big pink colour album and 116 fotos of mine in a cover-It striked my head that it was an album selected by me when we friends  together went out.He just told me to select an album which i liked and at the end i got it in my hand.To be true when i went through the photos i realized that there are many photos in that box which i dint have-I was hell suprised-my eyes were full of tears and i was blushing ..
Its the most surprising gift i had!!
I came back home and took 2 hours to time to arrange the Photos in the Big pink Album.
It was wonderfull to see my face in all the slots of an album...
Its such a great gift-Life time in my heart....
Anyhow i lost all my sleep because of happiness-Time to go for work..!!!!!