3 July 2013

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  • Don't hang out with them very much. If there are no other kids to hang out with maybe you could talk to some of the adults, watch TV, or even listen to your mp3 player. Socializing with an annoying relative a lot will not solve your problem.
  • If your parents don't care, make some other plans with your friends, to get away from your relative Although, you might be visiting your cousins in another state.
  • Try to be nice to your cousins, but do not act extremely welcoming and pleased with them.
  • At restaurants, sit by somebody else, and at places like the zoo, try staying with your parents, instead of the relative !!
  • Don't hurt them.
  • Be careful with what you say - Sometimes when you are angry with your sibling you can say very hurtful things to your sibling making him or her want to annoy you even more. Yelling is not the way to deal with them. Try using very nice calm words to them
  • The only reason that your sibling is annoying you is to get a reaction from you.By not showing a reaction you will show your sibling that you are stronger than they think. Do not get mad at them and yell or scream. This will show your sibling that you are easy to set off and they will just keep persistently annoying you.
  • Handle your feelings - Don't take out your anger on them! Never get physical either! These are two of the absolute worst things you can do. If you are really upset with them, try to talk to them using a nice, calm voice and gentle words. This can be very hard to do for you. If you are unable to do this, try drawing a picture of your sibling and ripping it up. This does not harm them but does get your anger out. Just don't let your sibling see that you ripped the picture up; this could damage their feelings.
  • Sometimes you can feel like they are just pinpointing this whole thing on you.
  • Talk - This type of problem can affect the whole family. I suggest trying a family meeting. In this meeting only one person can talk at one time. That person should be holding a special object to tell he others it is their turn to speak. If someone disagrees with another's opinion, discuss it and come up with a few conclusions to solve the problem. Also, try to do some more family things
  • If your sibling keeps annoying you, tell them straight to their face exactly how you feel. At this time do not be afraid to yell, but swearing and insults HAVE to be avoided or this could get worse. Hopefully this will intimidate your cousin,and tell them that you will not tolerate this any longer!!
  • Mind your feelings. Your cousins are living people too! Imagine how you would feel if you were them. This can help you choose your words more carefully. But don't result to violence. Violence can get very serious, starting with just the lightest "high 5 to the face" can turn into a big problem!!! 
  • If your Cousins will NOT STOP, and your parents can't stop them either, maybe your cousin is having some emotional troubles. You can also talk. 
  •  If all else fails then just ignore them. Trust me, just lock yourself in your room. And they will go away.


2 June 2013

Potatoes

A kindergarten teacher decided to let her class play a game.
The teacher told each child in the class to bring along a plastic bag containing a few potatoes.
Each potato will be given a name of a person that the child hates.
So the number of potatoes that a child will put in his/her plastic bag will depend on the number of people he/she hates.
When the day came, each child brought some potatoes with the name of the people he/she hated.
Some had 2 potatoes; some 3 while some up to 5 potatoes. The teacher then told the children to carry with them the potatoes in the plastic bag wherever they go  for 1 week.
Days after days passed by, and the children started to complain due to the unpleasant smell let out by the rotten potatoes. Besides, those having 5 potatoes also had to carry heavier bags. After 1 week, the children were relieved because the game had finally ended…
The teacher asked: “How did you feel while carrying the potatoes with you for 1 week?”.
The children let out their frustrations and started complaining of the trouble that they had to go through having to carry the heavy and smelly potatoes wherever they go.
Then the teacher told them the hidden meaning behind the game.
The teacher said: “This is exactly the situation when you carry your hatred for somebody inside your heart. The stench of hatred will contaminate your heart and you will carry it with you wherever you go. If you cannot tolerate the smell of rotten potatoes for just 1 week, can you imagine what is it like to have the stench of hatred in your heart for your lifetime???”

Moral of the story:
Throw away any hatred for anyone from your heart so that you will not carry sins for a lifetime.
Forgiving others is the best attitude to take! Love Everyone & Be Loved.

29 May 2013

Apple's and strawberry !

A teacher teaching Maths to seven-year-old Laiq asked him, “If I give you one apple and one apple and one apple, how many apples will you have?”

Within a few seconds Laiq replied confidently, “Four!”

The dismayed teacher was expecting an effortless correct answer, three. She was disappointed. “Maybe the child did not listen properly.” – she thought.

She repeated, “Laiq, listen carefully. If I give you one apple and one apple and one apple, how many apples will you have?”

Laiq had seen the disappointment on his teacher’s face. He calculated again on his fingers. But within him he was also searching for the answer that will make the teacher happy. His search for the answer was not for the correct one, but the one that will make his teacher happy.

This time hesitatingly he replied, “Four.”

The disappointment stayed on the teacher’s face. She remembered that Laiq liked strawberries.

She thought maybe he doesn’t like apples and that is making him loose focus.

This time with an exaggerated excitement and twinkling in her eyes she asked, “If I give you one strawberry and one strawberry and one strawberry, then how many you will have?”

Seeing the teacher happy, young Laiq calculated on his fingers again. There was no pressure on him, but a little on the teacher. She wanted her new approach to succeed.

With a hesitating smile young Laiq replied, “Three?”

The teacher now had a victorious smile. Her approach had succeeded. She wanted to congratulate herself.

But one last thing remained. Once again she asked him, “Now if I give you one apple and one apple and one more apple how many will you have?”

Promptly Laiq answered, “Four!”

The teacher was aghast. “How Laiq, how?” she demanded in a little stern and irritated voice.

In a voice that was low and hesitating young Laiq replied, “Because I already have one apple in my bag.”


When someone gives you an answer that is different from what you expect, don’t think they are wrong. There shall be an angle that you may not have thought about yet

26 March 2013

V Can

I have learned anything from life,its that sometimes,the darkest times can bring us to the brightest places.I have learned that the most toxic people can teach us the most important lessons;that our most painful struggls can grant us the most necessary growth;and that the most heartbreaking losses of friendship and love can make room for the most wonderful people.I have learned that what seems like a curse in the moment can actually be a blessing,and that what seems like the end of the road is actually just the discovery that we are meant to travel down a different path.I have learned that no matter how difficult things seem,there is always hope.And i have learned that no matter how powerless we feel or how horrible things seen,we cant give up.We have to keep going.Even when its scary,even when all of our strength seems gone,we have to keep picking ourselves back up and moving forward,because whatever we are battling in the moment,it will pass,and we will make it through.WE HAVE MADE IT THIS FAR.WE CAN MAKE IT THROUGH WHATEVER COMES NEXT !

14 February 2013

Paper Stress


There’s no shortage of reasons why people are dizzy with money stress these days. The high unemployment rate, sagging real estate values, and steep gas prices are real issues that we can’t control, but that affect our wallets nonetheless. But it’s important to realize that stress is nothing more than your body’s response to a situation or a series of events.Think about it.
1.Change your language :Though it may sound cliché, keeping a positive attitude and using positive language can reduce your stress response to financial issues in your life.Never say that you can’t increase your income or that you should cut your spending, for instance. Instead, say I want to increase my income or I will cut my spending.

2.Reframe your thinking:How you view your finances and speak about them can change the way you feel about them.In turn, how you feel about your money will strongly influence how you manage it and deal with challenges. Remember that actions are always preceded by thoughts and beliefs.

3.Recognize your power:people tend to get more stressed when they believe a situation is out of their control.That’s why many people get really uncomfortable traveling on an airplane.When it comes to your money, you always have the power to make a difference, so recognize that choices exist for you to improve any financial problem.

4.Focus on the positive:Instead of dwelling on what’s wrong with your finances, think about what you have to be grateful for. Notice what’s going right, make peace with your problems, and decide to learn from your challenges. Many people keep a gratitude journal where they write down a few things that they’re thankful for each day.

5.Stay in the present:Many times financial stress comes from projecting a worse-case scenario into the future. You can exaggerate a situation in your mind to the point that your heart starts pounding and your palms start sweating. Remind yourself that you’re not in the future you’re in the present moment where you have complete control.

6.Reject thoughts of failure:Never believe that a financial challenge is a sign of personal failure or weakness. Whatever your situation, remind yourself that it’s nothing that millions of other people haven’t struggled with.  You and your family can grow stronger by proactively working through your money issues.

7.Take a stress break:Make a conscious decision to do something healthy to take your mind off your stress. Maybe it’s going for a run, enjoying a hobby, watching a movie, listening to music, or doing yoga.

8.Get financial help:Talking to a wise friend, can help you see options and solutions to your financial problems that you might be overlooking.

9.Reduce your debt:If debt is stressing you out, get serious about creating a spending plan so you can free up more discretionary money and pay it off as quickly as possible. Try to keep the total of all your monthly debt obligations below 40% of your gross monthly income.

10.Choose to build wealth:You can reduce stress by purchasing less stuff that you really don’t need and making a commitment to save and invest at least 10% of your income.


STOP STRESSING START SAVING !!

8 February 2013

25 bday !


Today is my birthday and i am so so happy .I would like to thank my mum and dad who showed me this world...I love them always and i am blessed to have a lil bro & lil sis...I love you all..

The past 24 years were the best and it has taught me a lot ....


8 January 2013

If i had my life to live over again..Next time i would find you sooner so that i could love you longer !The past 1 month with you was extremely awesome and fulfilled with all your love.You always made me feel precious and you have made my life meaningful. I am so blessed to share my life with you.I love you so much !!!

2 January 2013

You are precious

Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are!