Navarathri 2023

 Hi ! Hope you all are having an absolutely wonderful Navarathri season. Here are some of my golu pictures . Let me know which one you liked the most or what you liked the most about the golu . We do not keep theme golu . We follow the traditional golu . No thermocol, barbie or etc types of dolls . 

Let’s talk

 Hello Everyone… hope you all are keeping well . I had a great vacation and india and I am back to routine now . Today let’s talk about how are you planning for your retirement or let’s talk about the India vibe or savings . I see a lot of people wanting to settle very soon than the olden days . When I went to india this time I got to know about lot of savings and retirement plans . I see there are many in their 30s who are doing this which has to be appreciated . What do you all think about this . On the other hand there are many who are wasting money . Like a coin I see both the sides . Let me know how you all are planning around so that I get better ideas or understanding on people around me . Sometimes I even think life was far better with less money . Those good olden days . We have come a long way …I am looking forward from you all …

Friends

Friendship ! 

A vast topic though! 

Alright so today I wanted to talk only about a bit of this paper called friendship . I see that friendships are not very great these days and finding a single friend is very difficult . These days I feel nobody cares for anyone instead they are busy advising others about life and preaching what to do and what not to do . As I have put my daughter in school I get to talk to many parents but even with them I couldn’t find a genuine friend .Even when we discuss something about the school or teacher they will come with parenting advice . Firstly , I hate giving advices of taking advices . Everyone has their own life and situations so even if you are not able to help at-least don’t advice is my thought . Anyhow end of the day I am happy that I have 4-5 good friends who know me well. There are many who don’t even have that . Many are judging with the age and number of kids one has . It’s like I have 2 kids so I know better than you . Very crazy and cranky situation with parents . What are your thoughts on this ? I think friendships are lost these days and honesty as well . Atleast 40 percent of friendships are not genuine. How do you see this ? Do you see people like this in your daily life ? Have you succeeded in making new friends ? 

Vishu 2023

 Hi ! Happy Vishu / Tamil Puthandu. Posting some pictures from my home and not writing my memories on this festival as I have already posted few years back . Anyhow this year it’s been in our new home and has been an amazing day with our daughter . Let me know how you liked it and how you celebrated . I am thankful for everything that I have today in my life . 

Happiest Post

 Hi , I never thought I would write a post like this or my first post of 2023 would be this . 

So today I went to my daughter school to meet the P.T teacher before the parent teacher meeting to know how she is doing with regards to sports . I know that she is very good at Hoola hooping and she was there in all the sports day opening ceremony for all grades . I still wanted to know whether she has interests in any other sport or how far she is active . 

The conversation at first was just normal . The teacher asked me why don’t you give her some fish and chicken to improve stamina. Before this she said she is extremely fast and clever . She is the youngest in class and smallest but powerful . She has a long way to go . Nainika is good at Hoola hoop, running , swimming and skating . I said we are vegetarians and she doesn’t eat any of these or we have not tried . Teacher suggested me to buy from outside and give . I definitely know that it’s not going to happen . 

Later the teacher eyes were full or tears . She said in so many years of experience you are the only parent who came to meet me and ask how my child is doing or how to improvise her . I was out of words but still controlled my feelings and continued talking . She said I am also a vegetarian and I am very proud of you and Nainika father . I see you everyday dropping her at school and have noticed you people . 

She also said , I am proud that you are encouraging or supporting your girl child to excel in sports . If at all my parents did this I would have not been here I would have been a great player or continued to stay in India . If Nainika has parents like you both she is definitely gonna shine . 

And , that hit me hard ! A tear came from my eye after one hour of conversation. I told her thank you and slowly came out of the room . 

So what I understood is sports is not valued many at times or it’s a problem if a girl at home is interested in sports . Also , parents look at P.T teachers lethargically. I think they must be respected and valued as well . 

Yesterday was the happiest day in our life .I don’t know whether to be proud of ourselves or proud of our daughter. Now we know she is a sports person and we have made up our mind to go in her route . 

Reunion at mess

Hi ! Advance new year wishes to all of you . 

Today myself and Naveen went to saipoorni mess at nanganallur chennai to have dinner and get some parcel . We gave our order and was waiting outside . We saw few old uncles having fun with filter coffee and chit chatting. I asked them Enna mama reunion ah ??? He was like yes yes after 35 years we all have met . We are all school mates . I asked them how did you all find each other and he said what’s app eruke:) 

We said we have come for the first time to the mess and he was like Venkat is America citizen avane sollitan this mess food is nice so you can buy :) They said even 20 more friends have not come for the reunion. Which means nearly 30 people are still friends for a long time . Then we said bye got our parcel and left the mess 

What we thought was how strong friendships were those days . Today we all have max 5-7 countable friends that too if you are lucky enough . And how many of us make a chance to meet each other . Even if we do the other person doesn’t . How many of us wish or meet for festivals or functions . Even for birthdays if Facebook doesn’t show notification nobody will wish you . That’s the condition now . So these were our thoughts while returning back home . 

Let me know what are your thoughts on friendships these days or if you are old how was it in those days . 

Karthigai Deepam 2022

 Hi ! Hope you all are doing well . 

Happy Karthigai Deepam ! 

We have moved to a new house recently with a big balcony so this year I decided to decorate the balcony with my thoughts as I couldn’t make it in the veranda which is air conditioned  The lamps don’t stay for long so I just kept for half an hour and brought the lamps inside . 

Here in the new flat I got some friends and the medium is my everyday Kolams . They wonder how I do it and they love the rangoli . Many are seeing kolam for the first time . So I have told them I shall invite you all for Navarathri at my home this year :) let’s wait for it . 

So back to karthigai deepam . Apart from making savouries we make big Kolams and light lamps with oil . These days there are electric lamps and water lamps but we don’t use it . 

In my childhood karthigai deepam was more beautiful than now .The whole village would be lightened up with lamps . My mother used to wear the 9 yard saree and go to temple to light the lamp and bring home . My mother used to make pori urundai and sweet appam . Now let’s come to the kolam part . It’s been nearly 18 years since I left my home . From then on I never got a satisfactory place to exhibit my kolam. We had a very big thittani made only for me to put kolam . Once I left that house I started missing that thittani as well .I made really nice kolam from my childhood days . I remember making kolam in temples and even for neighbours .In our Chennai house there is space but still I would feel there could have been more space . It was like something is missing . 

Today after moving to this new house I made a kolam that made me the happiest. I never felt there is no space . After making this kolam I stood by it and left a tear . How beautiful and cherished it . I am thankful for everything that I have today and it’s only because of my discipline and Naveen who came to my life on the right time . For whatever we have today we are thankful to our efforts and path . Not thanking anybody because it’s our journey and we have played it alone so far . 

Adding the picture of my kolam . Let me know how you liked it or what are your thoughts on this blog .