26 December 2019

Last post of 2019



2019 has been an ok ok year I would say a mixture of tension , harwork, dedication, self esteem, patience , arguments, tears etc

I am happy that I am making this the last post of 2019

What are the few things that 2019 taught me and what am i taking forward.

1. This year after going to Armenia( tunglis 1st vacation ) I decided every year a vacation is must because tungli enjoys it and as a family we get a good time to spend and end up with lot of memories and experiences .

2. Not to spend too much of money on birthday party instead go for a vacation

3.Save money as much as you can because liquid cash is always needed . Very important .

4.Kids will eat only what they want and not what you want them to eat so let them go in their way .

5. Never trust anyone because you never know how things will turn down so trust yourself and move on .

6. Hardwork and patience will definitely give results .

7.Deal most of the things with patience because it helps you keep calm and doest make the situation worst and gives the best result .

8.Do not talk or discuss anything to a person who dint stand for a particular scene . If it was a no! maintain your stand and get it done in a good way and stay humble.

9. Matrimony search is the most difficult task . Never an easy job

10.Wrong people will always teach you the right lesson and many did this to me this year .Thanks to them .

Point no 11 I learnt this from my brother

Do a good deed and throw it in the river , one day it will come back to you in the desert and this is 100 percent true . Trust me it comes late but it will ;)

So guys , let's start this year with good thoughts for us and others as well 

God bless you all .

HAPPY NEW YEAR 2020 .

13 October 2019

Few life lessons

So as I have woke up early today and sent naveen to office with lunch boxes sitting with a coffee here with a positive head just thought of pointing few life lessons that i follow towards my daughter .

1.Allow the kid to talk whatever they want . Give that freedom so that they can be a better person

2.If you give them a task to complete and even if they dont like it  somehow make them to complete it so that they will learn to take responsibility of doing it . Try your best that they complete it .

3.Show them unconditional love . That's all that that need .If you dont then they might do things in a secret way and end up in problems when they grow up .

4 .If they say anything listen to them .They might be right . Do not think only you know everything because you are the parent .

5.Do not argue or fight with them .If they dont react properly definitely there is a reason behind it .Try to find and solve it or find an alternative way .

6.Do not enforce them in life .They might lose their interests and talent or who they are .Let them free.


Last but not the least

Be the bestest support system to them so that they be good humans .That's more important than everything else .

You have to go in their way to an extent there is no other option . You cant be a strict parent always in life .

Post in your views or ideas ♡

9 October 2019

Appa

Reading these letters
I get that pain in my throat
But not tears in my eyes because I dont have much of it.

The only thing I thought reading it is ,if at all I had been a grown up that day or if I had the money that I have now these letters would have not been alive .

I am so sorry that I couldn't help you in any way or save you,I was too small .

I would have never let you ask help to any
But there is one thing that we learned from you..

Live life to the fullest because its uncertain and I also understood that humans are selfish and jealous most of the time .

I am happy that you brought up us as good humans who understands others and live a meaningful life with humanity.

You taught us life in a very young age and I dont know whether to be proud of it or sad about it .

Love you dad

5 October 2019

Navarathri 2019-Dubai

Hello everybody !

This Navarathri I am in dubai and this is the small arrangement that I made at our home.I hope you all liked it . Post in your views . The forest was set up for tungli . Had few friends home and a good time this navarathri . See you all in my next blog ♡










11 September 2019

Onam 2019 _ Dubai

Happy Onam to all of you . My onam memories goes on like this . We lived in a house which was located in a village in palakkad . We had a big veranda to make the pookalam ( designs) . I am actually good in climbing walls and trees like monkeys to pluck the flowers from the backyard .Myself , my brother and sister would take a basket and go to the backyard early in the morning and make sure we get the bestest flowers. We have to really go early or else others would have taken all the flowers hence it's a funny task . Some days we get many flowers and some days it's one or two that's all.

The flowers which we had in the backyard were chebaruthi , sangu pushpam ,pavizha malli, nandhiyarvattai and there is something called as mathan poo ( pumpkin flower )and pasharu(green algea). We used take the algae from the walls of wells at home .

On the day of Onam alone we go sultanpet market with our father to buy flowers .Rest of the days we make pookalam with the flowers we have from the backyard .

How we design it ?We wash the veranda and look at the roads for cow dung . I am the one who takes the cow dung in hand because my brother doesnt like to do it .He would catch the cover and I would take it and put it in the cover . We add some water to it and make a round design with the cow dung and keep it in the middle and keep a flower on top of it . This is mainly done because for the cow dung smell no animals or insects would come and spoil the pookalam.

I am always the one doing the art and my brother and sisters play the PA role ;) My parents would see and say very nice shilpa,super design today . After this we just go for a walk to see the designs in others house and we tell to ourselves oh the design in my house is wow ;) how funny when we think about it now . New dress and onam sadhya is a sure one .

So this is how we were celebrating onam !

Today , sitting in dubai I think of all this. I made a small pookalam because we stay in a flat. We went in taxi and bought flowers . Just wanted tungli to know there is something called onam and this is all we do in our family . I made a small Onam sadhya because I dont want to buy it from hotel as others do . Tungli helped me a bit in peeling onions , cleaning coriander and so on . She knows to do all these because she sees me doing the household everyday .

Surprise is naveen got me a Onam saree and a jewellery .Though he is from Tamil nadu he appreciates everything that I do and loves it hence I am happy . Peace .

I wish everyone a happy onam and enjoy the best . Childhood is always the best and if you have kids do try your best to give atleast half of the childhood memories you had . The world has changed a lot actually .....not like before . In the name of modern many beautiful things are lost ...I wish many realise it and live life to the fullest .

I shall post our onam pictures in the next blog soon .

Post in your views .

1 August 2019

10 things I hate


I think of writing this everyday but i could never find time . As tungli slept early and as it's a Thursday night got some time before sleep .

1. I hate when people send me a 'k' as a reply message.Cant they type a ok, okay,okie,wokay :)

2. I hate to see the dishes in the sink when I wake up in the morning .I clean it every night before sleep .

2.I cannot tolerate the noise from a hammer it just irritates me.

3.I do not like to wash the milk stain vessels.

4.I hate when people expect me to tell them what they want to hear .

5.I hate seeing a half jug water . When I need water the jug has to be full .

6.I hate threading eyebrows because it doesnt look natural and i think its waste of money .

7.I do not like if clothes are not washed with some fragrance solutions .

8.I hate watching the same movie twice.

9.I hate mothers who dont patiently feed their children.

10.I hate when people talk only bad things about dead people .

What do you think about this blog ? What is something that you hate ?

14 July 2019

Take it easy .

So today is an interesting topic here . Atleast for few who have gone through this  .

Few of my findings from doing a matrimony search for my brother .

What do the girls family need ? Few of the scenes that happened are below .

Before you start reading I have to tell you that we have a younger sister whom we got married and I have a 2 year old daughter . So we know how things work.Just making a note here . Do not take it serious .

Enjoy reading ...

1. My daughter wears only heels hence the 1cm decrease of height would be an issue.

2. We prefer a boy who doesnt wear coolers .

3.We dont prefer palakkad boys

4.We are expecting 50 lakhs per annum income .

5.The boy has to move to Bombay with our daughter as she works here .

6.The boy has to know singing.

7.Are his sisters married .

8.Our daughter needs a pet in future . If you can buy one we are ok . She loves pets but we dont have one because the girls mother doesnt allow to get one .

9.Our daughter loves travelling hence he should keep taking her on vacations .

10.Our daughter hates pets hence if you have a pet we are not interested .

Last but not the least

11.Our daughter is not interested in kitchen duties if you are interested we are ok .


Goes on...

Still on search for a match .

Moral : Everyday is a learning :)


27 June 2019

Watercolour

Today myself and tungli went to a shop to buy few colouring books for her and paints . We both together did some painting . Here is few of my paintings.Which one did you like?

 


25 June 2019

Q&A Part 2


Shyam adithya
How do u manage to put on that innocent smile always (though I know u r not one!! ;))
Good one.This is why you are my friend :)
Because I know the person on other side is not worth my time or arguing to . I just put a smile on my face and walk off .If I dont do that then its known what will happen next.

  • Boys are innocent while comparing to girls.


Bhuvana Aunty 
How you face your stressful moment. Let me know pls
When I get stressed I think that there is no use getting stressed because nobody will help me come out of it and I have to find a way myself . Hence in that way i will think for a solution and fix it.

Shyam
How do you manage to be slim always ?
Few things that I dont eat are any masala items, junk, non veg, carbonated and fried.
So I eat just fruits and vegetables and a normal diet . I do some exercise too .
I think my eating habits are the reason to be slim.

Vasanth
If u become CM of ur state what will be ur first action??
As a mother of a girl child I would bring the rule to shoot at sight or hang the rapist or cut him into 2 . The rest is all next.

Suju
Who is ur very close and best frd forever
I studied in a government school for few years and I got a lifetime friend named Geetanjali. Forever she is my friend but we dont chat or talk everyday but still I think of her everyday .A very positive person.Government schools has the best humans .

Narayana Uncle
What side dish u like for elavan+Chenai molakootal satham?
I love to eat it with some mahani pickle not pulikajal or injipuli.

Renjith
Hows your Baby doing?
She is good and very naughty .

Amarnath Uncle
Are the people of Armenia loving, polite and hospitable?
Yes, I would love going again. They are very loving and polite . They always have a smiling face . The kids are super awesome there . They love Indians and they took many selfies with us because we were Indians.  Tungli was like a celebrity there . While comparing to Georgia I would say Armenian people are polite and loving  .

Swarnalatha Aunty
With all your talent why can't you start online coaching ?
Yes , coming soon .

Ramya
Do u paint for hobby or professional painting
Some I paint for myself .Some I paint for selling .

Sandhya
How do you still maintain Dat Malayalam accent..?
That's me couldn't change it .I think it's because I still have contacts with palakkad people.


And there it ends . Bye guys .


24 June 2019

Q & A

Alright just thought of a Q nd A session with my friends and bloggers around.  These were the questions that popped in and here i go honestly.

Vidhya
I have amazed by your positivity how can you be more confident and bold ?
I think I have always been positive and also seeing the real people from the age of 13 has made me to this confident,bold and positive person.I accept the reality of life .You know that and you have been a part of few happenings in my life .So that's my answer.

Deepika
How you got interest in drawing and cooking ?
I observe everything and put it on a paper from there drawing started .Then I always love colourful things hence I paint . There is so much life to an art work.
Cooking - Naveen loves food hence I show interest in it and food is everything .

Barath
How are you ? Are you happy in your life ?
This might seem like a funny question but I know that not many ask you this when we really want someone to ask us. First of all  thank you for this question .
Yes I am fine and happy with my little family busy cooking , painting and running at back of Tungli.

Jaisree
How do you do your craft works?
I like creating art . I don’t like to see things plain hence I decorate the wall with my paintings . I do it while Tungli is sleeping or on weekends . I tell Naveen to take care of her and complete it . Its difficult actually but I do it .

Rakesh
How are you getting thoughts for writing blogs? Are you connecting with your personal incidents or how ?
To be honest there are many things that I want to write from my personal incidents but it will create problems in the family hence I don’t write much of personally related ones here . I just get ideas while drinking juice, standing under the shower or while sitting in the sofa. It’s instant ideas most of the times .

Mohi Khan
Why is money respected so much in this world when it’s nothing but paper?
This question is from someone who knows me well. But I am giving my answer here . I know the difference between a rich and poor . I have lived both the life hence I keep it neutral when it comes to money . Money comes and goes but right people are more important in life like you .You have been in  my tough times .Thank you.


Shobith
How do you take it when your husband goes out with friends? Let it be outing, tour, eve party.. like if he hangs out once in a month. Without any prior plan. All of a sudden plans type. How do you deal with it?
Naveen is actually happy reading this question . He is like answer it ! Firstly, since 9.12.2012 he has not let me alone (except my home)and stayed anywhere .He wont.
Alright , I don’t mind him going for parties , tour or whatever but end of the day he should be home that’s all I need . Every man has his own personal place and friends.I think I should let him enjoy.Fun at times is needed or else men will go mentally upset and that spoils even the smallest happiness at home.

Manikandan
Purpose of your birth ?
I think I did the best to my siblings as the eldest and next if I bring up Tungli as a good human being my purpose of this birth is done . I will happily go . But I will always be proud of my 13 year old self . Nobody would have survived or gone through what i went.

Nithyavelu
Why do you call your daughter Tungli?
When I was pregnant when I say Tungli tuku she used to kick me hence even after her birth I called her that way and she responded . From then she is Tungli for me . But later I knew Tungli has a meaning and it’s an emotionally strong person.

Nandhinee
How to spend quality time with kids with activities at home
One good thing that I did is I left my job .I make tungli join in every activity I do at home from kitchen to folding the bed sheets etc hence it's like a fun time .Additionally  naveen helps me on weekends and after coming from work .

Suchitra
What is your strength?
Myself . I don’t depend on anyone to get a positive vibe .

Aiswarya
How did your life change after having Nainika?
It’s been great so far but what we got to know is who stands for us and who doesn’t . Secondly, we have become a mountain of patience .

Harish Naidu 
Why dint you teach me tamil?
Before I taught you tamil I learnt little Telugu from you . Ha ha . Then the rest you know we had most of the time spent with friends in the pantry making sandwich and eating chips . Lol. Oh but I am happy that I found a person like you in my life . And you know what google did to us . Lol

Gowthami
What is the super power that you want ?
I wish I had the super power to fall asleep as soon as I think of it.I have never slept enough in life . My brain doesn’t let me .

Vignesh
What sets apart ordinary people from the extraordinary, is how extraordinary people manage their time, interests, family and fitness. Does really hard work beats talent?
So question to you is, how do agree or disagree with this.
I think it’s ordinary people who go through tough times sincerely and become extra ordinary.  Extraordinary  people put all their time into what they want . So that’s my answer . Time is everything for them.
Hardwork and talent has to go hand in hand.

Zainab das 
How do you balance the role of being a wife, daughter and daughter in law, and a mother and at the same time maintain your individualilty.
Being a wife is easy I love him and will do anything for him .

Daughter in law- I understood that end of the day she is a mother like me. Secondly, old people go crazy at times and we have to behave accordingly.We cannot change them.We have to change ourselves. If we do not poke our nose too much into this son and mother thing it will all be fine. Just understand the situation and behave.we might behave the same when we get old .Karma always returns hence treat her properly .Then there is something called as giving respect to the age at any cost.

Mother- I learnt it myself .

Daughter - I don’t have my parents alive but I still stay truthful to my rules .
I don’t believe in' like a daughter' hence I am able to maintain the individuality .

Priya reddy 
How do you make your daughter eat ?
When she was small she eats whatever I give because she dint know . But now that’s not the case . She is a picky eater . I ask her what do you want to eat and she tells me . I make it for her .

How I increased the chances of making her eat .

1. I don’t feed her . I make a colourful plate and give it to her and she will eat what she wants from it.

2.I make sure I sit with her and eat for breakfast and lunch . So she sees me eating and does the same .Depends on her mood.

3. Naveen feeds her at night because he likes it and she can spend some time with him too.Father daughter time.

Lastly . They will eat only what they want and not what we want them to eat . So don’t worry .

My daughter never eats rice . I stopped worrying about it .

Asha
How do u keep up ur spirit day long..
I keep thinking what's next....

Naveen
When is the second child ??
And the answer is a ;) and a ♡

Thank you guys for all your time. 

18 June 2019

Hair tips

Alright so today I decided to write a beauty post so that it might be helpful for many .

Hair fall and baldness is the biggest problem these days . Most of the young generation doesnt have hair .So before I loose my hair I decided to maintain it as much as I can .

Living in Dubai and maintaining your hair is a big thing .

Few things that I follow.

1. I use a wooden comb .
2. I comb my hair once I wake up and before going to sleep so that all the weak hair falls off and the scalp feels good .
3.I wash my hair 3 or 4 times a week .
4. I use only coconut oil or sesame oil for my hair .
5.I do not use shampoo instead I use a homemade paste which I prepare .

After doing this I find great improvement in my hair quality . Though the length is short the hair which is present looks decent .

There were days when I coloured my hair pink, violet, blue etc. I have done all the possible hairstyles and what not but now i have settled with these tips because I know if i continue doing the same old things by the age of 35 i will be bald .

Hope these tips helps someone out there .

16 June 2019

SAVE H2O

To begin with I am a tamilian who knows malayalam .My childhood was at Muscat, salalah and palakkad .

According to me I never wanted to marry a Chennai boy because in my perception tamilnadu was a place which has no water Whenever I switched on the TV I remember seeing ladies standing under a tap with colourful cans on the roads .I remember telling my mother when I grow up and you search for a groom do mention that I wont get married to a Chennai boy .

And , I ended up falling in love with a Chennai boy and marrying him ♡ . Then I realised the scenes which I saw in the TV when I was small is not actually the scene.

Today facing the water scarcity in Tamil I feel miserable.Its very difficult to manage . I just thought about pregnant ladies, I'll people, ladies on periods etc etc .You dont have water for anything . JUST IMAGINE

I have no idea why this place ended up to be so . Myself being a nature lover have always wanted to stay In a village , with fresh air ,water ,mountains and so on goes the list . Many people told us to buy a house in Chennai but we ended up buying in an other state because we knew that when we retire we need a peaceful place and not a city . I wish people realized the importance of water and saved it .Its too late but at least if we try to keep.our surroundings happy and clean I think everything will slowly improve.When I talk about all these people make fun of me .But today the day has come as I always say . We are in a situation to pay thousands for water . Life has become horrible .

We have a daughter and we teach her to save water . Few things that we tell her everyday.

1 .Open the tap only while washing your mouth not while brushing .
2.Open the tap to wash your face not while applying soap.
3.After playing in the tub take that water and pour it for the plants .
4.Keep a cup of water everyday in the balcony for the birds .

We think for a 2 year old this will do .

Most of  you are aware on what's happening around and  teach your kids too about all these.You might think what will a small.kid understand but they will. It might all seem like a joke but when it happens to us and the next set of people then we will know the real thing .

I wish the best happens in our future days and peace stay with all .

14 June 2019

The best ever .

Just had food and posting right away .


I just couldn't be without writing here . They say a man who loves food will love everything in you . Might be correct but I would say a man who knows cooking is everything .At least for me.its that way . 

I know naveen is good in the kitchen but today was the bestest . The biriyani and the salad he made was a direct yes to the heaven of food .What more can I ask for .

Food♡sleep♡peace

Here is picture of it.



25 May 2019

Few colourful doodling


 This is how people should get lost and have a vacation


If at all I get a chance to have a bath like this these days .Impossible with a kid ;)


Should try some swinging soon 

What do you think about these  . For me I loved the bathing doodle the most .What about you . What do you like the most . Let me know .I shall try to doodle .

19 May 2019

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What are some of the most important lessons about money/people/society you have personally learned over the past years? And did any of these lessons surprise you?

Let's find what people have to say on this .

Post in your views .

30 January 2019

Social rules



1. Don’t call someone more than twice continuously. If they don’t pick up your call that mean they have something more important to attend to.

2. When someone drops something on the floor by mistake or drops food from the plate or doesn’t know how to use a knife/fork don’t stare at them. The same goes to people sneezing, coughing or even an uncontrollable fart. It’s an involuntary reaction.

3. Always skip using the washroom beside the occupied one. It makes it uneasy for the person in the occupied washroom as well as yourself if you occupy the one right next to theirs.

4. Return money that you have borrowed even before the other person remembers lending it to you. Be it 1Rs or 100Rs. It shows your integrity and character. Same goes with umbrellas, pens and lunch boxes.

5. Never order the expensive dish on the menu when someone is treating you for lunch/dinner. If possible ask them to order their choice of food for you.

6. Don’t ask awkward questions like ‘Oh so you aren’t married yet?’ Or ‘Don’t you have kids’ or ‘Why didn’t you buy a house?’ For god’s sake it isn’t your problem.

7. Always open the door for the person coming behind you. Doesn’t matter if it is a guy or a girl. You don’t grow small by treating someone well in public.

8. If you take a taxi with a friend, and he/she pays now, you pay next time.

9. Respect different political opinions.

10. Don’t call people on the phone very late if it’s not really important.

11. Never interrupt people talking.

12. If you tease someone, and they don’t seem to enjoy it, stop it and never do it again.

13. Say “thank you” when someone is helping you.

14. Praise publicly. Criticize privately.

15. f you’re talking to someone and notice any of the following, they’re trying to end the conversation: Their eyes keep darting away. They angle their body away from you. They give you rapid one-word answers.

16. There’s almost never a reason to comment on someone’s weight. Just say, “You look fantastic.” If they want to talk about losing weight, they will.

17. If you’re getting a long flight or train, shower before. The person next to you will appreciate it.

18. When someone shows you a photo on their phone, don’t swipe left or right. You never know what’s next.

19. If a colleague tells you they have a doctors appointment, don’t ask what it’s for, just say hope you’re ok. If they want to talk about it they will and you don’t put them in the uncomfortable position of having to tell you their personal illness.

20. Treat the cleaner with the same respect as the CEO. Nobody is impressed at how rudely you can treat someone below you but people will notice if you treat them with respect.

21. If a person is speaking directly to you, staring at your phone is rude.

22. Never give advice until you’re asked

23. Do not make plans in front of those you are not involving.

24. Don’t talk to someone if they are wearing headphones.

25. When meeting someone after a long time, unless they want to talk about it, don’t ask them their age and salary.

26. When a friend/colleague offers you some food, you can politely say No. But, don't do this after tasting or smelling it. It's an insult to the one who has offered it to you

27. When someone starts talking about their ailments, don't start talking about yours.

28. When someone you know has an obvious change in appearance, e.g., weight gain/loss, bald spot, acne. never comment on it until they talk about it to you, they already know what is happened to them.

29. Never kiss a baby that's not yours.

30. Mind your own business unless anything involves you directly — just stay out of it.

31. Do not view every post on Facebook as an opportunity to argue/debate, even if does not conform to your views or beliefs.


24 January 2019

Have you ever

Have u ever been rejected by someone
Have you ever been told I am busy
Have you ever been told call me after this time
Have you ever been told I have work at home
Have you ever been told I am not jobless like you
Have you ever been told I was sleeping
Have you ever been told I will eat and call

Have you ever felt like crying
Have you ever felt so sad
Have you ever felt to talk to
Have you ever felt to spend sometime together
Have you ever felt why is he\she like this
Have you ever felt why they don't understand you
Have you ever felt why they behave like this to you alone
Have you ever felt why this happens only to you
Have you ever felt why why why ?
And ended up with no answer to your feelings .

Let me know if you have gone through this and what you did to overcome this feeling .

I have gone through this feeling many times.

Note: This is just a post and I am happy with my life and people around me .

20 January 2019

9 changes for ♡


A very happy 2019 to all of you .I know that it's late but that's ok there is always a chance for a good start .

So today I thought to write about 9 things that I stopped doing after having tungli in our life . As i am everything for tungli and i am at home taking care of her many things have changed in our life.

If there are any new mom's here I think they can relate and also let me know what has changed in your life after having a baby .

1. I stopped bathing in the morning .I normally bath 3 times a day . The situation now is I have to bath in the morning before naveen goes for work or else the only possible time is at night after he comes back home so that he will take care of tungli .Somtimes there are chances that I just have a quick bath while she is asleep . 

2.I stopped doing my mild make up too because I don't get time and when I go out I prefer dressing up tungli more than myself .

3. I don't get much time to paint .

4.I stopped watching television and I watch more peppa pig and other cartoons in the iPad. The television is on only when naveen is at home. 

5.I never eat eggs normally .I started having extra eggs just to keep me healthy so that life is better . A good decision :)

6.Myself and naveen normally watch movies at nights and now we just switch off the lights the minute she is asleep and doze off or else its difficult the next day . 

7.It's been 2.5 years since we went to the theatre. From the days I got pregnant till now we never went because the sound system might affect her ears .

8.Stopped spending money in buying clothes.Managing with the dresses I have.The only costly thing I bought recently are my white heels because i love white and that was naveens new year gift ♡

9.Not spending much money on roaming out.Most of the time we are at home spending some good time with her . We go out twice or thrice a month .

In total though there are so many changes in life it has only made the house and life colourful . 

I wish everybody are blessed with a miracle in their life too .

Post in your views 

Navarathri 2023

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